Before You Follow
don't follow me if you're a friend or fan or supporter of salem (tearzah/dollclaws/dollieguts/dreamalgia (on twitter, youtube, and deviantart) whatever other usernames they're going by now). they're an abuser who has hurt me and several of my friends in the past, i want nothing to do with anyone associated with them.
and no, for people who wanna try stirring shit up for whatever reason, this wasn't exclusively online interactions. i know them irl, and Have known them irl for literally years: we met when we were toddlers, we literally grew up together.
they, among other things, constantly threatened self harm or hung suicide over my head in order to keep me with them and get anything they wanted from me during nearly the entire duration of our "friendship." they're extremely controlling and possessive and it got to a point where i had to lie about, and even ask my mother to lie for me about, being busy if i simply wasn't feeling well enough to hang out. they were also physically abusive and Constantly made jokes to me, reminding me of when they used to hit me.
their art is a whole other issue in and of itself considering all they draw now is romanticized abuse and "borderline" pedophilia:
here’s a description they forgot to change back when they were trying to clean their hands of this whole thing.
as well as this, this, and this. they were very pressed on making sure it was known that ash was meant to look like a literal child. i shouldn't need to explain why describing a character this way and then drawing as much porn of them and sexualizing them as much as they do is gross.
more links:
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(tw for abuse, manipulation, suicide baiting, stalking, rape mentions)
the reason i don't post everything that i have and don't speak much into specifics of the situation these days is because they are still stalking me to see if i'm talking about them. they have on multiple occasions gone to people around me irl about this in an attempt to keep me silent. this is the same reason i don't directly answer anonymous messages that address them by name (since that can be searched).
my point in speaking out is also not to attack them. i want people to be aware of who they are and what they've done in order to avoid dealing with anything similar to what i and so many others have already gone through. do not go out of your way to harass them as it's a complete waste of your time anyway. they won't change anything. they are a literal dangerous person, just block them and move on.
like this post if you read this page. if you don't and follow me anyway, you will be soft blocked.
if you can't like the page for whatever reason, send me a message letting me know you at least read this, preferably before you follow me (you don't need to wait for me to reply). this is just so i don't soft block you before you're able to tell me. i don't make any other exceptions with this.
*do NOT bother this person about this post. i’m linking to that blog because i don’t have the updated one on mine and can’t reblog it for my own safety.
extra shit
i just want to add a few notes regarding the several call out accounts that i've seen for them.
i've expressed my thoughts on these a few times now. but i'll sum it up right now: i don't like them. full stop.
they do not help me or any other people hurt by salem.
i have never seen one that wasn't an excuse to indulge in "drama." i have never seen one that had any genuine regard for any of us despite claiming to post on our behalf (i messaged one directly once - teawzahs, which i believe has since been deleted - to correct some information they posted. not only were they dismissive towards me, they took everything i sent out of context and posted it with their own take on the situation. which was, again, completely inaccurate and entirely missing the point).
furthermore, i have never seen one of these accounts managed by somebody that was actually personally hurt by salem.
these accounts do not help us. more often, they are only further complicating things by spreading false information. if you're reading this and considering making an account like this somewhere, this is me telling you Not To Do That. or at the very least, talk to actual victim's of salem before trying to do anything on our "behalf." none of the people running these pages, other than the one i messaged myself, has ever said a word to me. and personally, i would really rather you not try telling my story when you don't even know it.
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i also want to address their claim that they've apologized, as i've had people ask me about it. this was an outright lie. the only "apology" that any of us ever received is the incident i mentioned in the original call out: where they said they wanted to fix things, weren't forgiven immediately, and then tried saying they were the victim and we were the abusers (posting about us publicly on their twitter, sending people to harass us, etc).
i've posted about this a few times as well: 1, 2, 3, 4.
there was never any sort of apology beyond that incident whatsoever. there was never even any admission of guilt on their part, they never admitted to anything, and definitely never did anything to correct the situation when we were being harassed BECAUSE of their posts about us.
the only thing they ever did to "fix" anything was distance themself from the situation in order to avoid backlash. they're just trying to save face and frankly, that says More than enough to me about how much they've truly "changed."
and in honor of having received another hollow "apology" via a random third party throwaway blog that sent it on their behalf, here's another note:
hi salem. stop wasting my time, leave me the fuck alone, and get over yourself.
as a side note...i'm not going to write about the person they're dating because. i don't know anything about them, nor do i have any desire to look into them.
here's the rest of what this person sent me
one last time, just to reiterate: “but they apologized!!”
no they did not.
"what about this 4 minute apology video they posted on youtube??" here:
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